Masturbation for Vulva Owners

Lets talk about Masturbation for Vulva owners. <3

We know there are many stigmas surrounding masturbation. I know there are people who have been raised to believe their bodies are sacred, and touching yourself is wrong.

Pardon my French, but FUCK THAT.

Masturbation is the best way to love yourself. We are lucky as vulva owners to have such beautiful sex organs. Seriously, the folds and crevices are unique to each and every one of us.. and so is the way we feel pleasure. Spending the time by yourself to try different techniques and figure out what you like, and how you like it, is a wonderful way to get to know yourself. It can also help you communicate with partners to help guide them to pushing all the right buttons for you.

Let’s start with the basics. The clitoris! The clitoris is the pleasure center of the vulva. It doesn’t play any other role.. other than making you feel good. This is why there are so many vibrating toys that focus on the clitoris. The Clitoris is right under the point where the inner labia meets and forms that little hood. The external portion of the clitoris is right under that hood, it is about the shape of a pea and extremely sensitive to touch. The internal portion of the clitoris is shaped a little like a wishbone. The legs of this wishbone extend through the labia, towards the anus. This part of the clitoris is made up of erectile tissue and swells on either side of the vaginal canal, helping to increase lubrication and sensations. 

There are so many clitoral toys on the market right now, that it can be hard to find the one that is right for you. The hottest trend on the market right now is Air Pulse technology. These are the toys that encapsulate the external portion of the clitoris and generate pressure waves that stimulate oral sex. These are some of our favourites right now. Not sure if you like the Air Pulse technology? Try out the One Night Stand by Satisfyer. It’s an air pulse toy that is a one use style. You will get 90 minutes of use out of this product and it’s waterproof-- perfect for some fun in the tub!

Another way to stimulate the clitoris, via the legs, is to apply pressure to the vulva. This can be done with a hand, or a lay-on vibrator. These are typically longer flatter shaped vibes that apply pressure and vibration to the vulva as well as the directly on the clitoris. This is a great way to extend your pleasure. When you’re exploring, no one said you had to get right to business. Take the time and really feel, do you like light pressure or firm pressure? Slip a lay-on between your lips and see how the form fitting silicone shapes and vibration add to the sensations.

There are so many ways to experience pleasure without penetration.. but why not add a little to increase the please? I mean, if we’re taking the time to get to know ourselves lets cover all bases right? Not everyone can reach an orgasm with just penetration, but if you take the time to explore you just may find the right buttons to push that will help get you there. You can stimulate the clitoris internally with that first little bit of penetration because the legs of the clitoris run along the vulva. Take your time, use lube and see what insertion feels right. The penetration alone might not be enough to get you there but you can combine it with some external stimulation. Remember not every session needs to end in an orgasm (though its always more fun when it does), sometimes just taking the time and teasing can help you learn to love your body a little more.

Lets talk G-Spot, have you found yours? Did you know G-Spot stands for Grafenberg Spot? It’s named for the German physician and scientist. He helped explore the different erogenous zones and the satisfaction responses to these spots. Now that we are able to get better imagery of the internal views of the vagina we are able to see that the G-Spot isn’t it’s own distinct part of the anatomy, rather it is a part of the clitoral network. More of the network designed 100% for your pleasure! This spot is a walnut sized area of erectile tissue towards the front of the body. I am sure you have all heard to find your G-spot you use the ‘come hither motion’. It’s important to know that each person’s body is built differently so your fingers might not reach the exact spot. There are so many G-Spot Vibrators that are curved with a bulbous end geared towards helping you find your g-spot. Try inserting the toy and rocking it lightly, not just back and forth, but side to side. You can play around with different pressures, and movements or add vibration. There are so many different ways to stimulate the g-spot.

Everyone has heard of the Rabbit! I mean, if you haven’t seen that episode of Sex and the City, you’ve been living under a rock! But did you know there are hundreds of different styles of rabbits? Some are curved to focus on your g-spot while others are made to thrust to simulate intercourse. Either way, we can all agree on one thing, rabbit vibrators work best when the external piece sits firmly on the external portion of your clitoris. This helps apply pressure and vibration to that little hot button that will help get you there. Exploring both internal and external stimulation at the same time is a great way to maximize your pleasure.

There are so many ways to self pleasure, take some time and find out which is your favourite.